February 21, 2018

from the New York Times yesterday - my comments re comments re an article titled “How to Break up with your iphone”

Someone posted this - “I got off Facebook a year ago because it was too tough to see how well everyone else's lives were compared to mine. I was stunned to find 20 more hours a week to live my life. That's over 1,000 hours a year, or the equivalent of almost *60* 18-hour days. I'm glad to have two more months of living every year now, and will consider the points in this article to see how I can otherwise expand this.”

I replied with this - got 3 Likes -
I find it tough to realize everyone else has so many loving, supportive friends. Friends galore - by the hundreds and thousands!
My father always said something like "if a man [he should have said person but this was a long time ago] has 3 good friends by the time he dies he is a lucky man". Thats about the way it is for me - not counting my FB friends of course!

Someone posted this -
I have a flip phone. It allows me to take (bad) pictures, text and call. Period.
It horrifies me to sit on the subway, in a museum, in a nice restaurant, a movie etc and see my fellow human beings drowning in their phones, oblivious to their surroundings or companions. They are lost in the world they have crafted on their phones, where everything that does not pertain to them is shut out and, like Narcissus, they can stare at themselves forever.
Smart phones are dangerously seductive and addictive. Designers make them do more and more things to draw users farther and farther in. If Mussolini or Hitler had lived in the time of smart phones, we'd all be speaking German. 

To start, do not allow your smart phone into areas and times of your life when you would not welcome some other human being. Never, ever have it in your bedroom, or be on it after 9. Those are not 'public' times or spaces. Do not use it when your attention is needed elsewhere - work, driving, school or time spent with friends or family. Unless you are in some kind of crisis, you do not need to check it repeatedly. It is far more necessary to focus on the world and people around you.

Never forget that the people who design this technology are trying their best to make you dependent on it, to invade every crevice of your life for their own profit, to separate you from the distractions and messiness of actual life.

I replied with this w - got 1 Like -

You mean I should say goodbye to the New York Times, The Atlantic, Vanity Fare, New Yorker, Al Jeezera, The Guardian, PBS and on and on and on? Or should I subscribe to them all? I said goodbye to Television and hello to my Macs 2 years ago. The best thing I ever did. The internet is a wonderful place - so much knowledge so easily available any time of the night or day! I am sure there are people who say telephones were a crazy invention - so much better to just talk over the back fence! 


Wisewebwoman said...

I abolished television nearly 30 years ago. Now I have netflix. I sure enjoy online Scrabble with a few friends, keeps my brains sharp. I am never quick to condemn any new technology as I was present when it saved the life of one of my granddaughter's friends.

The young of today are amazing to me. And have formed supportive family type networks with each other through smart phones.

I groan when I see old fogeys post about losing cursive writing. Like what is the point of what you're saying? I'm sure there was much groaning at radios too.

I'd like to see more elders truly engage with the 20 somethings and not just roll their eyes and be bores.


Betty Bishop said...

I'm not sure many young people want to communicate with older people Wise. Last time I had dinner with my granddaughter [on my huge dime] she had her phone family on the table the whole time - and that was before going to the washroom and leaving me for a long sit alone at the table. Friends tell me they go for dinner and immediately after eating the grandchildren disappear to their bedrooms with their phones. More or less understandable as there is a whole world in our phones [I read most of the world news before I get up in the morning! Then have at lease 1 game of solitaire] but also very sad.

Betty Bishop said...

I don't know what the heck I meant by that last line Wise. Excuse and forgive please. Haven't been hitting on on cylinders lately but think I am on the mend again.